All solved, well done!
7/1/2008
6/30/2008
I totally don’t get why people blurt evil things at me
You know, sometimes when women are pregnant, people say inappropriate things. Maybe give too many scary details about labor or tell them “you’ll never sleep again” and other things that are kind of overwhelming to someone who’s already committed. I’ve probably done that myself more than twice.
But you know what people don’t do? They don’t say “You will hate it,” “You will wish the baby had never been born,” “You might consider open adoption instead,” “I heard about this woman who killed her baby,” “He’ll undoubtedly disappoint you once he’s born,” “You’re going to screw this up.” You don’t hear that so much.
When people get married, again, lots of unsolicited advice, some of which is wildly inappropriate, but mostly not “Well, when you get divorced, you’re going to be pretty fucking broke for a while, so maybe you should learn some rice and beans recipes now.”
But that feels like ninety percent of what people say to me when I tell them my son is going into college. I mean, I posted here about my leap of faith, and the comments were fucking scary. No one said, “yay for faith” or “congratulations” or “you must be so proud,” and I really would have liked to hear that. I’m almost afraid to tell anyone now, because I hear all that scary stuff every day, from all manner of people.
Truly I don’t get it. I know it’s scary. And I know people are just sharing their own experiences and I appreciate that. But this is a vulnerable transition for us, a life passage, a time of celebration and rebirth and yes, fear. And damn if I wouldn’t love some support. And I have no right, really, to post my business all over the Internet and then scold people for their responses, but did I mention how I also blurt inappropriately? Yeah. So this is maybe one of those. But I just don’t understand why people are SO negative. Like it’s a mistake to go to college. Or to pay for it. Or to be excited about it. Or something. And this is like pregnancy, people. If you keep telling me this shit, the baby’ll be born cross-eyed or something.
6/29/2008
Sundays
I’ve been doing the meditation series for two years. At this moment, I feel like I don’t have that much more to say on the topic.
I would like to keep Sundays for Pagan-oriented topics. This is a mixed-use blog, and I do personal, movie, and political stuff, as well as Pagan stuff, during the week, whenever I feel like it. But I do feel it’s good for me and good for my readers to have at least one very Pagan post every week.
If there are any requests, I’m delighted to hear them. I was thinking, I dunno, spells, or folklore, elemental stuff (an elemental concept, association, etc.), gods, etc. Any of these might make a robust weekly topic for the next two years.
Let me know what you think.
6/25/2008
She’s awake and eating
Orien just sent me a picture of Orien Rose. I’m not posting a picture of a girl in a hospital gown all over the Internets, but she looks damn good. Sitting up, eating breakfast, signing “I love you” to the camera (Orien is a Sign Language Interpreter, and Orien Rose knows a little Sign as well).
Got permission from the parents; but I’m having trouble with my picture editor, so go here.
6/24/2008
Orien Rose: Hurray!
Okay, I don’t have all the details yet, but everything went really, really well. She has a skull. The surgical team says they’re DONE inside her head. Like, done. There was very little bleeding, so healing should be fast. I’ll get this out to my mailing list later.
Thank you all for your help.
Christine has written today’s diary here.