Archive for February 14, 2008

The return of Dating Hell™

I haven’t done one of these in a while, because, well, no dates.

So let me start out by saying that this guy had a terrible profile on the dating site in question. Just terrible. Obnoxious and scattershot. So he was already a no.

Then he contacted me and wrote me a really nice email, and another really nice email. Both were intelligent and warm and about compatibility, and both were also full of spelling errors. So I thought, Hmm, maybe this is a guy who is smart and nice but can’t write. There are such guys. My ex was such a guy; his emails ranged from blah to actual suckitude, and you’d never guess from reading them how smart and funny he really was.

So I’ve done the classic Deborah thing of second guessing myself, and I respond politely to the guy’s email. And what happens is he starts pursuing me via email, very focused, very nice, never inappropriate, but never dropping the ball or forgetting to follow up or letting me forget to follow up. So my head was a tiny bit turned.

Finally, I give him a phone number and he calls and the call is also very nice. He’s a little bit, I dunno, I can say there were things I didn’t like on the call, but at the time it was a really fun conversation with someone with a real vocabulary and real thoughts in his head. He says “Let’s meet tonight” and I say I can’t and we agree to the following night. Around 10:30 that night my phone rings and I don’t catch it in time, but it’s him, and it’s “Just wanted to say good night. See you tomorrow.” Which was so sweet.

So I go to bed that night thinking, what a nice date I have for tomorrow!

3:30 in the morning, the phone rings. It’s him. “Wanna party?”

Oh. My. Gods.

Did I mention 3:30 in the morning?

So he never actually contacted me after that. Which is nice, for his alcoholism; at least he can still remember that he did it. When the blackouts are total he’s in real trouble. But either way, I’ll never know, because that’s as done as done gets.

I got tagged

Konagod tagged me.

1. Grab the nearest book (that is at least 123 pages long).
2. Open to p. 123.
3. Go down to the 5th sentence.
4. Type in the following 3 sentences.
5. Tag five people.

The substance of magical writing, ancient though it is, survives in a very modern technique—affirmations. Affirmations are used by people who follow all sorts of different paths—Christians, Pagans, agnostics, New Agers—and many people don’t realize that in structure, form, and history, affirmations are essentially an act of magic.

Affirmations are a spell of Air, using repetitive spoken or written language to imprint a magical goal onto the self, and/or to send energy in the form of a message out to a target.

Yes, I wrote it. It’s from The Way of Four Spellbook. I keep the books I’ve written in a little cubby just above the computer (handy for reference), so when a meme says “nearest,” unfortunately I am drawn to solipsism. Kona wanted an Ian Fleming book, but they’re all downstairs.

Anyway, I tag Roberta, Amy, Deb, maurinsky, and Tom.

How many countries can you name in 5 minutes?

75


Answers to M Trivia

All solved in a single day!

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Steve Gerber, R.I.P.

I’m sorry to have to link to this obituary of one of the great comic book writers of all time, Steve Gerber. Gerber, most famously the creator of Howard the Duck, wrote smart, sarcastic, witty comics (and later, cartoons) that still had a strong core story. He broke the fourth wall without being smarmy. He commented on his work within his work. He embraced the ridiculous without making the reader feel hoodwinked. He was truly one of a kind.

Tuesday Trivia: Movies Starting with “M”

Because “D” went so well.

1. The Potato Head Blues is one of the things that makes life worth living.
Solved by Melville (comment #1).

2. Directed by a one-time elected Republican official, this movie was accused by the right wing media of having a liberal agenda.
Solved by maurinsky (comment #12).

3. “You don’t frighten us with your silly knees-bent running around advancing behavior!”
Solved by Ken (comment #3).

4. She cooks dinner. He feeds bits of it to his dogs under the table. She threatens to kill him.
Solved by maurinsky (comment #10).

5. “I’m a middle child. I always think the really good moments are happening to someone else.”
Solved by Evn (comment #17).

6. Based on Kensington Stories.
Solved by George (comment #19).

7. “Jews know two things: suffering, and where to find great Chinese food.”
Solved by Melville (comment #1).

Monday Movie Review: The Tin Star

The Tin Star (1957) 9/10
Bounty hunter Morg Hickman (Henry Fonda) agrees to teach inexperienced young sheriff Ben Owens (Anthony Perkins) what he knows about being a sheriff. Directed by Anthony Mann.

A man rides into town with a dead body on a pack mule. He is watched nervously by the townspeople. He finds the sheriff’s office and explains he is a bounty hunter and there is a reward on the deceased. The sheriff arranges to have someone who knew the wanted man confirm his identity, and writes to the railroad company who offered the reward to let them know it is being claimed. The bounty hunter has the sheriff write up an agreement of the claim before turning over the body.

If you haven’t seen The Tin Star, you’ve never seen a scene like this before. Perhaps you’ve seen a Western where the hero marched the criminal to town to collect a reward, or perhaps you’ve seen a body picked up and carried back for a reward, but even that is rare. The crux of a reward on someone’s head in a Western is that someone is hunted, and someone is hunting; the point is the hunt, the adventure, the shootout, not what happens afterwards.

The Tin Star cares about what happens afterwards. It cares about the rule of law and the letter of the law, and it asks if the law can truly protect us, can truly replace violent lawlessness, and then it asks how.

There’s exciting adventure here, a posse, a fire, murder, prejudice, and romance, but it all continues to loop around to the question of law. A posse is lawful, but it can be an excuse for a mob scene, and the town elders who want the law enforced aren’t willing to ride out with their guns to do so, leaving the dangerous and criminal to take the lead.

Fonda is despised for being a bounty hunter, and for killing a criminal who was cousin to Bart Bogardus (Neville Brand) the leader of the town low-lifes. Turned away from the hotel, he befriends a young boy and ends up guest to the boy’s mother, Nona (Betsy Palmer). Nona’s husband was an Indian, the boy is a half-breed, and Fonda must confront his own prejudice against them both. But again, we loop around to the law—does the law protect the despised half-breeds as well? Fonda can overcome his hatred because he believes in the law, and because he likes this woman, but local law enforcement is reluctant to do the same.

Anthony Mann made dark Westerns about people with haunted pasts and embittered presents. The Tin Star is dark, and Fonda is haunted, but for Mann, this is lighter fare. Here the characters have hope of changing, and reason is more important than psychology.

Fonda was once a sheriff, but he holds a bitter secret. He can teach Perkins what he knows, and most of what he knows is when not to shoot, when not to confront, and how to confront without ending in killing. When he helps Perkins hunt down a murderer, he is able to recall the values he once cherished; values that made him a sheriff in the first place.

Fonda is excellent, of course, and this is Tony Perkins before Psycho, when he was cast as innocent hearthtrobs, not crazed killers. The mostly unknowns who populate the town are solid; even Mary Webster as Perkins’s girlfriend isn’t too annoying.

My crazy flippin’ blog keeps disappearing

So I (actually Joe) keep restoring from backup. So if you commented or anything, it’s probably gone.

Firefly Season 2?

Wow.

Never mind.

Friday Catblogging: Alarm Clock

He’s standing on my alarm clock.

Look, I wake up without an alarm, unless I’m getting up extra-early, and here’s a lovely reason why: He stands on my alarm clock. There’s like, buttons there.

Yes, that’s right. On the alarm clock.