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Monday Movie Review: Capturing the Friedmans

Capturing the Friedmans (2003) 9/10
In 1984, Arnold Friedman is arrested for child pornography. While searching his home, the police discover that Friedman is a teacher, and has computer classes at home. Soon he is under suspicion of molesting a large number of students, and suspicion falls upon his youngest son Jesse as well. (Documentary)

Capturing the Friedmans challenges our ideas of what we know, and of what conclusions we can draw. 1984 was the height of the McMartin daycare case, and there was a lot of hysteria about the evils of child care and the dread thing that could happen to children.

But Arnold Friedman was not the innocent victim of a bizarre accusation. He was a pedophile with child pornography hidden in his home. The suspicions cast on him seem to have been based in fact. But were they?

The Friedmans were a family fascinated by videography. The documentarians were blessed with access to a large number of homemade family videos taken before and during the case. We watch as a family disintegrates before our eyes. One brother, Seth, declines to appear in the film. David, the eldest, believes his father is utterly innocent, even of pedophilia, regardless of any evidence. David is furious; with his mother, with the media, with everyone. The youngest, Jesse, is simply resigned and sad.

The film finds a very few of Friedman’s accusers who are willing to talk. Some stand by their stories and some do not. One young adult tells of the enormous pressure put on him as a child to confirm that Arnold molested him, and finally caving in. An investigator speaks, in all seriousness, of how important it is to pressure children and put words in their mouths. He seems sincerely to believe that this is best for the children.

Yet there is something wrong here. There is no way of reading this as tragic victims versus outrageous accusations. The uncomfortable perch is between somewhat guilty parties (at least in Arnold’s case) versus accusations with a grain or more of truth. The accusations are fueled by, but not an invention of, hysteria. They are blown up, expanded upon, and nurtured, until their scope is beyond belief.

While this happens to the community, what happens to the Friedmans? Each deals alone with anger, shock, and terror. They don’t come together as a family; they shatter, and to a great extent, they remain shattered twenty years later.

This isn’t a comfortable film, nor is it a lurid one. It asks us to look at what we see and simply, calmly, think. It is remarkable how difficult that is. For some people in the film (and indeed, for some people who have reviewed it), it remains out of reach.

How Grown Up Are You?


You Are 76% Grown Up, 24% Kid


Congratulations, you are definitely quite emotionally mature.
Although you have your moments of moodiness, you’re usually stable and level headed.

“Pork” is a funny word

Pretty much since we passed the here-comes-the-airplane, open-the-hangar stage, I’ve been trying to get Arthur to stop gesturing with his utensils. Particularly loaded utensils.

So last night at the dinner table I said:

Don’t wave your pork at me.

Pork is a funny word.

Salt of the Earth

Okay, here’s an interesting topic (for Wiccans anyway—the rest of you go read Tom).

Via Pagan Soujourner, I find that Essais wonders what’s up with using salt on the altar to represent Earth.

As a symbol of earth, it hasn’t got a lot going for it, other than just sort of generally being a mineral. Lots of other things do that. It’s a consumable, yes, and associated with hospitality, but the reason for that is also its rarity…

So it’s supposed to represent Earth. In that case, why not use…earth? Dirt’s free. It’s plentiful. And when you don’t need it anymore…there’s an obvious place to put it.

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Nerd Art

(Note: This is an original post I wrote for a guest gig at Pandagon. It never appeared here. I have some new thoughts on the topic that I’ll be getting to over the next few days, so I thought I’d start by posting this.)

Stan Lee and Gene Roddenberry. I should throw Jack Kirby in there too, since Lee took credit for a lot of Kirby’s work, so they say. What do they have in common?

Naked fantasy.

I first started sparking on this idea while reading the wonderful The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier & Clay by Michael Chabon, a chronicle of many things—escape artistry, survivor guilt, the Golem, coming out—among which the birth of superhero comics figured prominently. And clearly these characters were fictionalized Kirbys and Lees, or, going back further, Siegels and Schusters and Kanes and Fingers. And there they were, these guys, these kids, really, a boys club of boy fantasies; hoping and dreaming and basically jerking off, unself-consciously, unanalytically writing and drawing their nerdy fantasies and sharing them with the world.

That’s what makes them so great. These are raw fantasies, innocent, really. Newer comics are self-conscious, post-Modern, post-Freudian, either studiously artistic or cynically pornographic. Either carefully feminist or sadistically anti-feminist. Not these guys. From the 1930s through the mid-1960s, these guys wrote their dorky little dreams and sold them en masse. “I wanna be a boy sidekick,” “I wanna fly,” “I wanna smash the bad guys and get the girl.” Simple, innocent, fiercely, magnificently false-to-reality and true-to-heart.

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What Sports Car Are You?

I’m a Chevrolet Corvette!

You’re a classic – powerful, athletic, and competitive. You’re all about winning the race and getting the job done. While you have a practical everyday side, you get wild when anyone pushes your pedal. You hate to lose, but you hardly ever do.

Take the Which Sports Car Are You? quiz.

Event report: Crystal Fox Weekend

So this weekend I did two events at The Crystal Fox.

I drove from New Jersey to Annapolis on Friday night. It was a grueling trip. Only two hundred miles, but it took five and a half hours of miserable frickin traffic yuck.

But the hotel room was very nice.

I arrived at the Annapolis store rested and was warmly greeted by Spider and Dream. Everyone was friendly and the place was very nice. I taught The Structure of Spellcasting in the quick, one-hour version. It is HARD to squeeze that material into one hour. We ran over by about fifteen minutes and that still wasn’t enough. People were interested though, and it went well.

Then I strolled through the Annapolis mall, which was quite nice as malls go. I stared a lot at the many sailors in dress whites and thought “Fleet Week” until I realized I was not in New York but Annapolis, and there are always cadets in dress whites in Annapolis.

Sunday I arrived at the Laurel location for the next class. Same class, more people, bigger store. Really big store, actually, quite gorgeous and full of yummy Pagan goodies. Also nice air conditioning. After the class I did several readings and then drove home.

My back is killing me, but it was an excellent weekend. Sterling, Spider, Dream, and all the people I met were terrific.

A question about spam

I get between ten and fifty spam comments a day that feature long lists of linked urls.

WordPress, by default, moderates all comments with more than three linked urls.

By default. Like, I don’t have to know anything about blogging or spam for this to happen. It does it for me. I assume other blogging software does similar stuff. So these comments never get through. Never.

So if the spam never gets through, what’s the point? Who is it reaching? Who is the target audience?

Seriously, I have no idea.

But if you scroll past the list of moderated spam comments, it’s kind of funny. It all blurs together, so you end up seeing things about having anal sex with vicodin.

Monday Movie Review: Two for the Money

Two For the Money (2005) 7/10
Brandon Lang (Matthew McConaughey) was a college football star until he trashed his knee. Now he predicts football outcomes for a 900-line. There he’s discovered by Walter Abrams (Al Pacino), who owns the biggest sports tout operation around. Lang becomes Abrams’s protege, caught up in a whirlwind of high-end gambling, and in Abrams’s marriage to Toni (Rene Russo).

This is the kind of movie that never quite makes the radar of the casual movie-goer. It has a small but strong cast, an interesting premise that’s hard to describe (as the preceding paragraph illustrates) and lacks the kind of hook that fills theater seats. I would probably never have seen it if I wasn’t in a hotel room with nothing to do but browse HBO’s offerings.

For all the whir and buzz of high-stakes gambling and hard-sell phone banks, Two for the Money is fundamentally a character study. Brandon is lost without football, and allows Walter to make him into a new person; “John Anthony, the Million Dollar Man.” Walter is a gambling addict who likens himself to an alcoholic bartender; he serves but doesn’t drink. Yet with Brandon/John, he seems to be gambling again—on his protege’s career.

Most interesting is Renee Russo as Toni, doing devoted wife as if you’ve never seen one on-screen before. She is luminous in the role; solid in her commitment to her husband, honest about his many faults, frightened of the direction he’s taking. I can’t say the movie would be worth watching without her. She’s really something.

Pacino is terrific here. He’s over the top in that patented Pacino way, but he’s playing a character; he’s definitely Pacino playing Abrams and not Pacino playing Pacino which, let’s face it, gets old. McConaughey is more of a cipher, but he’s playing a character who doesn’t really know himself.

Two for the Money meanders, and isn’t quite sure of itself. It oversells certain points, and then backs away from other points that should have been solidly nailed. Unfinished business with Brandon’s father is alluded to, but just when you think we’re moving into some satisfying family drama, the script backs away, and leaves us with Brandon’s surrogate father (Abrams) instead. That felt like a gaping hole to me. This was one example of a dot not being connected; I felt writer Dan Gilroy didn’t know the difference between hanging back for subtlety, and avoiding the issue because you don’t know how to write it. Maybe the “based on a true story” aspect inhibited him.

Despite these dissatisfactions, Two for the Money delivers strong performances, intimate, complex relationships, and interesting characters.

Which Star Trek Character Are You?

Your results:
You are James T. Kirk (Captain)

James T. Kirk (Captain)
75%
Deanna Troi
65%
Chekov
65%
Uhura
60%
Beverly Crusher
55%
Will Riker
55%
Jean-Luc Picard
55%
Worf
50%
Geordi LaForge
45%
Spock
37%
Mr. Scott
30%
An Expendable Character (Redshirt)
30%
Data
29%
Mr. Sulu
20%
Leonard McCoy (Bones)
5%
You are often exaggerated and over-the-top
in your speech and expressions.
You are a romantic at heart and a natural leader.


Click here to take the “Which Star Trek character am I?” quiz…