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I love your blog

I got nominated by Evn for an award. As if sending me shirts isn’t enough! But anyway, it comes with rules.
I Love Your Blog

1. Put the logo on your blog.

2. Link to the person from whom you received the award.

3. Nominate at least 7 other blogs.

4. Put links to those blogs on yours.

5. Leave a message on the blogs nominated.

There have been blog love memes that I’ve participated in before, so I’m trying to pick seven here that I never have done this with. But I’m going from memory so I might be wrong. So, here are seven blogs that I love in random order:

1. Shakesville: This is a big, famous blog that has been really instrumental in getting me to blog. It gives loves to little bitty bloggers like myself, and Melissa really celebrates the diversity of the blogosphere in a way that has taught me SO much. Feminism, politics, teaspoons, geekiness, OMG shoez.

2. Shapely Prose: I love Kate, with heaps of cuddly love. Also, I’ve learned so much from her about size acceptance. I mean, I had a sort of consciousness about being fat and loving myself, but she has pushed me hard into seeing the insidiousness of size hatred in its many forms.

3. Pandora’s Bazaar does the personal Pagan blog thing without being smarmy or squishy, which is kind of hard to do.

4. Felix Leiter.com: For the single-mindedness. This is what you call focus.

5. The Comics Curmudgeon makes me laugh very hard. Sometimes stuff comes out of my nose.

6. I Expect You to Die is probably the best James Bond blog that I don’t write.

7. Rich Sommer: The Blog is just the sweetest blog ever. Rich is a supporting actor on the show Mad Men, and blogs a little about acting and mostly about how cute his daughter is.

So I cried a little

I was about forty minutes up the road when I realized there was a huge hole in my gut, and I felt like howling into it. I cried a minute. But I was driving. And I’d have had to pull over to succumb to that howl, and I just didn’t feel like it. There’s pain, sure, because it’s a hole. But there’s also no pain, because it’s right and good and what we’ve worked for.

Arthur may end up like me, and stay on his own from the day he first leaves home (which was, for me, a little more complicated than that sounds, but more or less). Or, he may be one of those offspring who keep coming back, into his thirties or later, to rethink life whenever the need is there.

It doesn’t matter. Either way, he’ll never be back the way he was. He’ll never be my kid living here. He might be my adult son who moved out and came back, but that is entirely not the same thing.

So it was time to cut the cord and cuts hurt. That’s okay. And I wanted to howl and I cried a little and that surprised me. And that’s also okay.

Right now, tonight, I don’t know what my life is like. I’m a little confused. But I’ve taken all the right steps and I’ve done all the right things and I’m not empty. I’m just confused. And I may cry some more.

Solutions to Tuesday Trivia (ha! I stumped you!)

It’s been ages since I stumped you!

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Today’s the day

We leave for college in about an hour.

Light candles!

Oh, and trivia hints are up.

Tuesday Trivia: Random Vignettes

1. A famous gunman taking a bath out in the middle of a field. Another man proud he was able to surprise him.
Solved by Barbs (comment #10).

2. Even in her fantasties of a holiday with the man she wishes loved her, he is unsmiling and grim.
Solved by George (comment #2).

3. She and her husband cross-country ski together, but when alone, she gets lost.
Solved by George (comment #1).

4. Alone in a park, a girl acts out readings from a favorite book. This will be important later.
Solved by Tina (comment #3).

5. He meets the murder victim while she is picking out a hat.
HINT: The movie is primarily about a murder trial.
Solved by Melville (comment #11).

6. He’s such a clumsy thief that she spots him easily in the train station, laughs at him, and ends up sleeping with him.
HINT: A lesser-known 1970s movie with a notable cast.

7. She doesn’t like him to look at her body, but she holds open her robe for him for just a few seconds.
HINT: A romance adapted from the stage.
Solved by maurinsky (comment #12).

Monday Movie Review (rerun): Murderball

I haven’t seen a movie in more than two weeks, what with the Olympics, the Arthur, the life in general. I feel like I’m in limbo. So to tide you over, here’s a repeat of one of my earliest reviews on this blog, of one of my favorite movies:

Murderball (2005) 9/10
Quad rugby (“murderball”) players are followed from the World Championships in 2002 to the Paralympics Games of 2004. Quad rugby, or wheelchair rugby, is played by quadriplegics in specially-adapted and reinforced chairs. (Documentary)

In the movies, people in wheelchairs are a finite number of things. They are tragic, uplifting, inspiring, angry, brave, hopeful, or heartwarming. In Murderball, they’re guys. (Women in wheelchairs are seen only peripherally in the film.) Specifically, they’re guys on a sports team. In fact, if you want to generalize, they’re more typical of what you may think about athletes than of what you may think about the disabled. They’re interested in playing hard, proving themselves, partying, and picking up girls. They pull pranks, they roughhouse, they boast. They’re guys.

In a way, I realized, this is an obvious and overlooked aspect of quadriplegia. Many such injuries are acquired in typically macho ways: Extreme sports, bar fights, pranks gone wrong, drunk driving, war. We see the way that the injured have to rebuild their self-image, and nothing makes more sense than that they rebuild the macho part as well.

The basic story follows two men. Mark Zupan is one of the stars of the U.S. quad rugby team. One day he was out partying and fell asleep, drunk, in the back of his friend’s pickup truck. Later his friend, driving drunk, and with no idea Mark was in the back, crashed the truck. Zupan was thrown sixty feet and hung onto a tree in a canal for thirteen hours until someone heard his cries for help. We meet his girlfriend, we attend his high school reunion, and ultimately, we meet the driver of the pickup truck.

Joe Soares had childhood polio. He was a star of the U.S. team for years. When he was cut from the team (a coach says simply that age slowed him down) he sued, unsuccessfully, to get back on. Now he coaches the Canadian team and the rivalry between his former and current teams runs deep. We meet Joe’s wife and his son. The younger Soares is interested in music and academics, not sports, which creates tension between the two.

We also meet a recently injured man, Keith, who is first learning to face his injury. We follow him from the early days of rehab, through a meeting with Zupan at a presentation on quad rugby, where Keith is excited by the freedom and strength he feels in the rugby chair.

Murderball is a masterful film. The editing seamlessly carries you through a huge range of facets of the lives of these men. Just writing this up made me realize how very much I’d seen. We are educated about spinal cord injury, we traverse family relationships, sexuality, competition, guilt, friendship, family, remorse, anger, and play. The competitions are exciting, there’s humor, there’s even heartwarming stuff. We are allowed to draw conclusions without being pushed.

The meeting with Keith brought up the eternal question about documentaries; who are the documentarians, and what are they doing? Clearly, the filmmakers arranged for Zupan to make a presentation where Keith would be present, but how did they pick Keith in particular? How did they decide he would ultimately be excited about quad rugby? Did they follow several recently injured people in the hopes that one of them would be? These are the sort of questions I wish documentaries in general would answer.

I heard these very words

“Thanks for dinner, it was nice. Sorry about my mother’s flatulence.”

Friday Catblogging: reeeeeeee-lax

What? I’m just hanging out!

Relaxed and stretchy

Seen by the side of the road

“Mowing Ahead” is, if anything, weirder than “Men Working in Trees.”

But the grass looks nice & trim.

Solutions: Quotes of the Aughts

That was quick. Good job, folks. This particular selection of seven quotes delights me no end. Some of them cracked me up as I typed them, and crack me up again as I typed the solutions, and some really move me…Good decade for movies, I think.

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