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Sacred Sexuality Pedicure

I got a pedicure last night. It was a new salon, because the last time I got a pedicure, the woman was really hurting me, and while I understand that manicurists don’t need much in the way of English skills, “Ow” should be on their vocabulary list. I could not get her to stop hurting me, no matter what I said, and it was an object lesson for me in how I still let myself get abused. People don’t necessarily see that about me, they see someone strong and brash, but I have a hard time stepping forward in a moment like that. My friend said I should have gotten up and left, or, I dunno, pulled my feet away, but there you are.

So anyway, I tried a new place. And the woman gave the most sensual massage. It was mind-blowing. It was very gentle; light touch combined with firm, but not deep, strokes. I tend to prefer a much stronger, deeper massage, something that edges on too much. But this was amazing.

And I was so moved by how erotic the whole thing was. I’m not talking about sensations experienced in any part of my body but my feet and legs, but those feelings were sexy. They were so lovely, so enveloping, that I shuddered more than once. Sexy. And again, at no time did I feel anything in my sexy parts, but at the same time, I felt I could have had an orgasm from those feelings.

We constantly demean our sexuality by thinking it belongs only in the realm of the bedroom. Like, if it’s not naked, or involving specific body parts or specific activities or specific moisture levels, it’s not a sexual thing. But our bodies are inherently and naturally sexual, responsive to sensation, and eager for touch.

In Paganism, we talk about “Sacred Sexuality.” And a lot of time, people assume that means it necessarily involves intercourse. Which, sometimes it does. But if my sexuality is only sacred when I’m doing the deed, well, then I am not sacred, I am merely an object that performs a sexual act for the purpose of sacredness. For my self to be sexually sacred, or sacrally sexual, it has to be my inherent nature and my choice and my expression of my nature and choice. That’s sacred sexuality. If I express myself as sexual and sacred, I can do it in the context of a dance, or of intercourse, or of a leg massage; it doesn’t matter. Because it’s the sexuality that’s sacred, not playing by the rules of society’s definition of sexual.

And by the way? Totally going back to this woman for my next pedicure.

I Love the Smell of Desperation in the Morning

We’ve had a couple of encouraging signs in the last few days.

On Friday it was Jim Geraghty’s dismay at Obama’s supposed contempt for New Rochelle commuters. (If the lifestyle of Rob and Laura Petrie isn’t sacred, what is?)

Yesterday it was faux outrage at Obama quoting The Untouchables, showing that the Republican War on Metaphors continues unabated. See, for example, Flopping Aces: » Read more..

We Had to Destroy Marriage in Order to Save It

Q: How do you save the hallowed institution of marriage from being destroyed by gays getting married?
A: You stop doing marriages altogether.

That’s the answer of two California counties, anyway: » Read more..

I love this: Real frickin progress

Via Ampersand, who got it from Ezra Klein:

Towards the end of the 1967 movie “Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner,” Dr. John Wane Prentice, played by Sydney Poitier, sits down with his fiance’s white father, played by Spencer Tracy. “Have you given any thought to the problems your children will have?” Tracy asks. “Yes, and they’ll have some…[But] Joey feels that all of our children will be President of the United States,” replies Poitier. “How do you feel about that?” asks Tracy, looking skeptically at the black man in front of him. “I’d settle for Secretary of State,” Poitier laughs.

Written in the late-1960s, the exchange was, indeed, laughable. The Civil Rights Act had been passed three years prior. Two years before, the Watts riots had broken out, killing 35. Martin Luther King Jr. would be assassinated a year later. But here we are, almost exactly 40 years after theatergoers heard that exchange. The last two Secretaries of State were African-American and, as of tonight, the next president may well be a black man. John Prentice’s children would probably still be in their late-30s. They could still grow up to be cabinet officials or even presidents, but they would not necessarily be trailblazers.

Tying movies to politics? Deborah Lipp: This is Your Life!

You know what? It’s easy to look at the current climate of racism; the hatred of brown people as expressed by hostility towards immigration, religious prejudice disguised as fear of terrorism, comedians who say “n****r” and then say they aren’t racist, Confederate flags flown with pride, comparisons of Barack Obama to a chimp or Curious George, conflation of all of it in the rank malificence that is the “Barack Hussein Obama” meme, to see all of that, and feel that pit in your stomach like, we’ve made no progress at all.

But by fucking golly, we have.

I Love NY

Today I love being a New Yorker:

Gov. David A. Paterson has directed all state agencies to begin to revise their policies and regulations to recognize same-sex marriages performed in other jurisdictions, like Massachusetts, California and Canada.

In a directive issued on May 14, the governor’s legal counsel, David Nocenti, instructed the agencies that gay couples married elsewhere “should be afforded the same recognition as any other legally performed union.”

The revisions are most likely to involve as many as 1,300 statutes and regulations in New York governing everything from joint filing of income tax returns to transferring fishing licenses between spouses.

In a videotaped message given to gay community leaders at a dinner on May 17, Mr. Paterson described the move as “a strong step toward marriage equality.” And people on both sides of the issue said it moved the state closer to fully legalizing same-sex unions in this state.

“Very shortly, there will be hundreds and hundreds and hundreds, and probably thousands and thousands and thousands of gay people who have their marriages recognized by the state,” said Assemblyman Daniel O’Donnell, a Democrat who represents the Upper West Side and has pushed for legalization of gay unions.

I got nothing to say except YAAAAAY!

Constitutional guarantees trump democratic majorities

In an article about gay marriage that refutes a new Republic article by Ben Wittes, Glenn Greenwald reminds me that I find smart people really, really hot:

That a law invalidated by a court is supported by a large majority is not an argument supporting the conclusion that the court’s decision was wrong. Central to our system of government is the premise that there are laws which even the largest majorities are prohibited from enacting because such laws violate the constitutional rights of minorities. Thus, the percentage of people who support the law in question, and how lengthy and painstaking the process was that led to the law’s enactment, is totally irrelevant in assessing the propriety of a court decision striking down that law on constitutional grounds.

Contrary to Wittes’ extremely confused argument, a court striking down a law supported by large majorities is not antithetical to our system of government. Such a judicial act is central to our system of government. That’s because, strictly speaking, the U.S. is not a “democracy” as much as it a “constitutional republic,” precisely because constitutional guarantees trump democratic majorities. This is all just seventh-grade civics, something that the Brookings scholar and those condemning the California court’s decision on similar grounds seem to have forgotten.

(Emphasis in the original.)

The problem, of course, is that we don’t really teach “seventh grade civics” anymore. I kind of wonder if that’s a coincidence. I kind of wonder if destroying our educational system (most recently with No Child Left Behind) is, in fact, part of a Republican strategy to take over America by making Americans too ignorant to know the difference.

But I digress.

Here’s the thing. Minorities have rights. Even unpopular minorities. Even Jews and gays and Witches and blacks and Mormons. Even, y’know, Puritans, who came here because (wait for it) MINORITIES HAVE RIGHTS. And this, this is AGONY for conservatives. Unless, of course, they’re in the minority.

You see, the entire argument is disingenuous. Conservatives wish to argue that “judicial activism” is Bad Bad Baddy Bad when it does terrible things like prevent discrimination against gays, but when judges, I dunno, enforce discrimination against gays they aren’t in any kind of agony about judges overruling legislative action.

But Greenwald says it better. And smarter. And with restraint. Which is what gets me hot.

Misogyny affects Obama as well

I went to eat, and CNN was on in the lunch room. Obama was in the middle of atown hall meeting in South Dakota, which I found fascinating. He was asking ranchers and farmers what their issues were, and discussing fuel costs and health insurance with fourth- and fifth-generation family farmers.

When the anchorwoman cut away to discuss what Obama had said earlier at that event about Bush’s foul Knesset remarks, she (I think it was Naamua Delaney, but I’m not sure), described the conversations as “Oprahesque.”

That’s right, talking to people makes Obama a big ol’ woman.

The radio news kind of makes it up to me

While I was out getting a sandwich, I heard the best news I’ve heard in ages. The California Supreme Court has overturned the ban on gay marriage as unconstitutional. I’m choking up just typing this.

Look, this is a turned tide. Just is. The bans on same sex marriage in other states are the thrashings of a dying dinosaur. This is how it is going to go. There will be setbacks. There will even be violence (like there hasn’t already?), but this is a done deal. In my lifetime, marriage equality will be the law of the land.

Okay, now I am choking up.

Not entertaining it

I listen to CBS all-news radio when I wake up. Weather every ten minutes and annoying voices is exactly what I need before coffee. And it also ends up being my toe-dip into the mainstream media (which I otherwise avoid).

So Hillary Clinton was apparently interviewed by Katie Couric last night, and they talk about Clinton maybe dropping out of the race, and said she said absolutely not. They then play a clip of Clinton saying, “Well, I’m not entertaining it. It’s just not even anything I’m entertaining right now.”

I get in the shower. I do my hair. I come out of the bathroom, and now the radio is talking about Edwards’s endorsement of Barack Obama. Someone asks Obama if he would consider Edwards as a running mate, and they quote his answer (something like “He’d be on anyone’s short list”). Then they get back to the Couric/Clinton interview, and say they asked Clinton if she was considering running mates, and they say it’s not on the table yet, and play a clip of her saying, “Well, I’m not entertaining it. It’s just not even anything I’m entertaining right now.”

The same clip.

The same clip in response to two different questions. Which is…now we know for a fact they’re just making shit up. It was the most trust-destroying thing I’ve ever heard on the news, worse than an outright lie, it was so transparently, lazily deceptive. I nearly choked.

And it turns out that the quote was in response to neither question. What Clinton was actually responding to was whether she would consider being Obama’s running mate should he win the nomination.

There’s really…there’s no excuse of any kind for that kind of crap.

David Paterson

It seems like everyone likes David Paterson, who will become New York’s governor on Monday. He is described as both more liberal and better at getting along with Republicans than Eliot Spitzer. And of course, people are very interested in saying “New York’s first black governor” and “First blind governor,” because people love saying “first” anything, and yes, it is important.

I live in New York. It’s been all Spitzer, all the time, here. My carpool buddy and I were listening to NPR on the way home (when I drive we listen to music) and there was a brief clip of Paterson from 14 months ago, talking about working with Spitzer and becoming Lt. Governor.

I have to say I was stunned by how much I enjoyed listening to him. He was articulate and almost musical in his ability to express himself. At the same time, he sounded relaxed and conversational, as if he was talking to exactly one person and making a vital connection to her. I wanted to run out and vote for him. And my buddy said that she’d seen a long interview with him (like 45 minutes) on a news show, and she ended up absolutely in love with him. That he was like that; articulate and beautifully-phrased, intelligent and thoughtful, yet relaxed and intimate, all the way through.

There’s certainly something exciting about seeing a genuinely wonderful Democrat rise in the party and in public recognition. Certainly many of us thought that’s what we were seeing with Spitzer, and that feels like shit. But the silver lining is Paterson and I am eager to see what comes of his career.